ADDIS ABABA, ETHIOPIA – Extraordinary circumstances often bring out the best in ordinary people. Take, a businesswoman from the American west. Becky didn’t plan to become an angel to women suffering from a horrible condition in a far off African land, but it happened. VOA’s Peter Heinlein has the story of the Trampled Rose, how an average woman seized a chance to do good after she fell ill during a holiday in Ethiopia.
Nigistin doesn’t know how old she is but she remembers decades of hopelessness as an outcast. She suffers from fistula, a childbirth-related condition that leaves women leaking foul-smelling fluids.
“When I got fistula, my husband threw me out,” Nigistin said. “I was alone and thrown away, then Becky took me in.”
Becky Kiser is an unlikely angel. She is an affluent American who runs a cosmetics distributorship in Colorado. She came down with typhoid while on vacation in Ethopia in 2003. She asked the man who had saved her life what she could do for him. He asked her to help his sister who had fistula.
“So, I said, ‘Would you please translate fistula to English, because I had no comprehension of fistula,” Kiser said.
In the five years since, Kiser founded a halfway house for fistula victims in Addis Ababa. It’s called the Trampled Rose.
“I came in as a beauty consultant, a Mary Kay sales director from America with no backing,” Kiser said. “I’m sure they thought I was absolutely insane or trying to get money.”
The Trampled Rose has given hundreds of women like Nigistin shelter and taught them skills so they can return to society after a simple surgical repair. One goal is to help women recover from the social stigma.
“Your family doesn’t care about you,” Kiser explained. “Your husband asks you to leave the home, so they’re left with no one, and even believing that God has cursed them.”
For women like Nigistin, the Trampled Rose is salvation.
“I was really in a bad way, and now I have a good future,” Nigistin said. “I won’t go back.”
Nigistin is now the head cook at the Trampled Rose. In a country where most women are illiterate, she says the Trampled Rose offers hope and skills that might save them from a life of begging, or worse.
These days, more help is coming, in the form of donations and volunteers like Karen Sharp who find inspiration in Becky Kiser’s work.
“Becky was the first angel I saw,” Sharp said. “Becky through many ways — through her love, support, her incredible humility.”
“These are the lucky women,” Kiser added. “These are the ones who escaped a dark room where they are thrown food for years. These are the ones who escaped being starved by their families. These are the ones that escaped way worse.”
And still, Kiser speaks of thousands more women who suffer such humiliation.
– VOA
4 thoughts on “Trampled Rose: A story of an American woman in Ethiopia”
Wow, God bless her! What a great job! What a great news! Thank You, Sir!
Becky:- The Knight in shining armor
I have visited the Trampled rose and its inhabitants quiet a few times. I also had the priviledge of meeting with Becky. I was deeply touched by the torture and trauma these women went through. What I observed was for these women Becky is truly an angel sent by God. I agree with Karen’s assertion of Becky being an angel.
When I visited the home some three years ago I was very sad by the neglect of our society for these poor souls. I was also ashamed of how most of us (that includes me)are ignorant and judgemental of what is going on around us. We see many of the fistula victims in many occasions and even doesn’t care or bother to understand what our fellow human beings are going through.
I saw that Becky gave up her life and career and made her mission in life to help these women. She travelled a long journey in an unknown land and culture and became a saviour for those women who had no where to go and no one to turn to.
In my visits what I observed was I and my coleagues were the only Ethiopians who visited the Tampled rose. The rest were all foreigners. From what I remember any one is welcome to visit women like Nigist. May be you can take some cofee as is our culture whenever we visit a family member or a friend.
They will brew the cofee with you and show you how they live. You will witness their happiness and joy and their excitement being around Becky. may be you can take whatever extra clothes you may not need because they don’t hav any budget to buy new and there always new comers who are desperately in need.
What I would say to my fellow Ethiopians is just dedicate a few hours on one weekend and visit the Tampled rose. It will be quiet an experience. For me it was.
Thanks Elias.
She’s indeed an angel…Thanks Elias!